Adult toys can serve several purposes in a relationship. They can spice up your sex life, make physical contact more pleasurable for both parties, and help you gain an extra level of intimacy with your party. But if you have not used adult toys with your partner yet, you may wonder how to express your desire to try something new and what the best way to introduce toys into the relationship is. Below are some tips to help you navigate your first experience with toys.
While surprising your partner with a toy can sound spontaneous and fun, unless they have expressed interest in a specific type of toy before, it is a good idea to shop for your first toy together. This will prevent your partner from feeling caught off guard and make the experience more enjoyable for both of you.
When you shop together, you can discuss the size, shape, and material of your toys to get something you both feel comfortable with. It is also a great way to learn about your partner's interests, desires, and boundaries.
Start With Simple Toys
Maybe you're tempted to jump right into a dual-ended dildo with remote control vibration. But it's a good idea to start with something a little less complicated. For example, a simple, small vibrator can add all sorts of pleasure to your intimacy without distracting you from your interactions with your partner. If you get too complicated too fast, you may spend more time figuring out how to work the toy and less time enjoying it and each other.
This doesn't mean you should only buy inexpensive toys in the beginning. Investing in quality toys can improve your experience. But you should buy well-made, simple toys that are easy to work into your current relationship.
Try Different Types of Toys
When purchasing a toy, give it a few tries before you decide whether or not you like it. The first time you use it, you may not reach its full pleasure potential. If you don't enjoy a particular toy, do not write off all toys. Instead, try something else. You will eventually get a sense of what you and your partner like, both as individuals and within your relationship.
Toys can be a great way to add something special to your intimate relationship. However, it is important to start slowly and introduce the right adult sex toys for you and your partner.